Maybe I’ll be in a calm and peaceful state as I write this because we’ve all failed. Yes! Don’t blame the person who did the crime only. Look at their environment and see if there was a probability of a different outcome if someone did something differently.
Apparently, this is not the topic at hand…my job is to give intel of the change or omission of roles within the society. In the first case, how many people have noticed that women have all of a sudden began to take their sons to be circumcised? Right…whose role was that supposed to be for? Okay then, what of single mums, aren’t male relatives meant to guide and train their sons for them to have a father figure in their lives?
Secondly, how many mothers out there go to the kitchen and train their kids to cook, train their kids in terms of household chores? How many women out there advice their kids in terms of moral conduct, relationships, dangers of sponsors, marriage and the likes. This is no attack, this is a call for awareness. That if we don’t change how we raise our kids as parents then our children will be lost to the world.
Maybe I’m being too harsh….But look at the outcomes that are happening right now… the killing of our children by rich older men either by homicide, STI’s or depression caused by deprived lifestyles and statuses. Our children are killing each other and themselves either due to depression or heartache? Our children are destroyed by drugs, excessive and uncontrollable intake of alcohol, unprotected sex, unnecessary or addictive gambling, and other gruesome acts.
Now we may not be able to control our children’s acts, but we can try and avoid some of the situations they get into. Why not talk about it, why not share your experience with your kids and get to see their views without cutting them short. Why not prepare them by giving them future predictions or forecasts of the consequences to their actions.
What of us as siblings? Do we just cover-up for our brothers and sisters or do we give them advice on what they are doing? Are we truly our brothers and sisters keeper if we don’t ensure that our blood doesn’t go to the wrong path?
Do we all have blame when it comes to tragedies that happen to our youth? Could we have done something to dismiss or make the situation less tragic than it already was?
There is a lot of debate that can come out of this…and if you are a parent and you agree or disagree with this, share your views….get to advice other younger parents and give openers to what is expected.